by YouTime Coaching | Sep 11, 2014 | Uncategorized |
Why do adults love being around children?
Do they have special powers, are we naturally drawn to them, or do they uncover a piece of us that wishes we could be just as
happy as they are?
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One thing is for sure, they smile and they do it a lot. When you compare it to their older counterparts, adults, there is no comparison. Whether the numbers are spot on or off by a bit, the jury is no longer out, kids laugh and smile far more than adults.
The good news is that you have access to this super power as well. Some things you should know about smiling before moving forward, so that you can really get an idea of the power of your smiles.
1. ONE SMILE = 2,000 Bars of Chocolate
- Research shows that one genuine smile produces the same amount of brain activity as eating 2,000 bars of chocolate.
2. ONE SMILE = $25,000
- British researchers found that one smile provide the same amount of brain stimulation as receiving $25,000.
3. We smile before being born.
- 3D Ultrasound technology is able to show that developing babies actually smile in the womb!
Now that we know the power of smiling, lets look at the smiling cycle and how smiling impacts us as well as other people.
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1. You Smile: Just Because
2. You Look Good and Feel Good: Brain imaging and EEG shows that “feel good” hormones are released as a reaction to you smiling. It makes you feel better and more confident.
3. Others See You Smile: When others see you smile, neurons known as “Mirror Neurons” encourage you to feel the same emotion that is in front of you, HAPPY! (check them out! “The Mind’s Mirror” American Psychological Association)
4. They Mimic You and Smile: The same way that yawning seems to be contagious, smiles are as well. You see someone smile and naturally you desire to as well. Those Mirror Neurons at work once again!
5. They Look Good and Feel Good: If you look good and feel good while smiling, why can’t others? Share the wealth! Those same “feel good” hormones, predominately Serotonin, are released when others smile as well.
6. You Smile: It all will feed back to you or extend onto others.
YOUR JOB
Make sure to smile multiple times each day. Especially when feeling a little down.
Smile for your sake and others as well.
Your smiles impact others.
by YouTime Coaching | Sep 2, 2014 | Uncategorized
What turns out to be one of, if not the most, important days of your life….YOUR WEDDING!
For decades the “traditional wedding” has seem to be a thing of the past. Sure you have old traditions at your wedding but wedding counts exceeding 200 people, costs of $30,000+, ceremonies held outside of churches and synagogues, and new traditions that newlyweds want to establish for themselves for the first time simply show us that weddings are different these days.
One thing that hasn’t changed over time (for most people), is that your wedding day is a learning experience. I want to share what I learned on my wedding day at Sakonnet Vineyards in Little Compton Rhode Island on August 9th, 2014.
3 Life Lessons From My Wedding
1. Take a Moment for Yourself.
Life gets pretty crazy at points. Our world can sometimes consist of our own expectations, external expectations, procrastination, multitasking, and so on.
When do you get a moment to slow down, savor the moment, be present and mindful, and witness what is going on around you? The answer is, you need to create this moment for yourself. A moment to yourself and in such a small amount of time (even a couple minutes), is enough to help you shift your focus, improve your mood, and become more mindful.
On Kate and my wedding day, during our first dance we were in our own bubble. My younger sister and her boyfriend sang our first song (January Wedding by The Avett Brothers, changed to “August Wedding” — Check her out
Whitney Wolf Music). We heard it, but saw no one around, it was just us. My appreciation for the day drastically went up at that very moment.
2. Express Yourself
We are human and are driven by emotions. The reality is, some emotions are easier to express than others. This means a couple things. First, find another source to express through such as, painting, music, writing…etc. Second, you deserve to express your emotions… intelligently.
On my wedding day, I was excited, anxious, and so unbelievably happy. I made it a point to express all of those that day in their own respective ways. I believe this picture is a culmination of all three of those emotions coming out!
3. Be Part of Something Bigger
On August 9th of this year I became part of something bigger, an extended family that I truly have felt a part of for the past 5 years. To put it lightly…it felt good.
One undeniable human need in this world is for “connection/love”. We desire to connect/love others and be connected/loved by others. One thing that most people look over is that our need for connection and love can be partially met and enhanced through being connected to other things like our environment, our health, the food we eat, and many more venues.
Find new sources in your life of connection and love to enhance your own experiences and meet your own needs.
I LOVE YOU KATE WOLF!
by YouTime Coaching | Aug 18, 2014 | Advice, Connections, Dating, Law of Attraction, Lifestyle, Receive, Relationships
“I don’t feel like picking a girl up at a bar.”
“I always seem to meet a guy that is completely wrong for me.”
“It is such an easy hook up.”
“They didn’t look like their profile picture.”
For those familiar with the online dating scene these thoughts may hit all to close to home. When it comes to trying Plenty of Fish or the recently popularized site Tinder, everyone seems to have such high hopes.
Sure they take the “going out to meet someone” concept out of the equation and match individualizes based on personality, interests and relationship goals, but is this potentially causing more harm than good? This is in no way discounting the healthy and long lasting relationships that have bloomed from online dating, because there are many. Nor is this claiming that online dating is bad, in fact it helps many people connect with individuals they wouldn’t have in the first place.
For perspective sake, could pre-matching individuals be handicapping us by minimizing the real life challenges presented while trying to connect with someone in a less constructed social environment?
Sure, that sounds like a hypothesis for a politically correct research paper, but the real question is “Why does this generation need online dating so bad?”
Reasons I have heard so far:
“I don’t have enough time to go meet somebody.” (very popular one)
“I am not good at hitting on women/guys at a bar.”
“It takes all the middle stuff out.”
Online dating has its purposes, but the perspective I would like to provide you with is how to use online dating principles to improve your non-online dating love life.
PRINCIPLE #1
Proximity Principle
Put simply, things that are closer to each other tend to stay together, get grouped together, and form interpersonal relationships. Tinder uses this technique quite wonderfully by searching for potential matches in your area. To steal some of this effect and apply it without an online dating profile, find local hang outs and places of interests. This could be a coffee shop/cafe, restaurant, parks…etc. Whatever it is, if it is closer to where you work, live, or typically hangout the likelihood of seeing the same people more then once will increase.
PRINCIPLE #2
VULNERABILITY
So you don’t want to share your entire life and baggage on the first date or even first encounter but you do want to create a genuine connection. Online dating allows you put some of that information out there for others to judge whether or not it is in sync with their beliefs, values, and priorities. What you need to do is find that middle ground between “What time is it?” or “Great weather today” with “How many ex-girlfriends/boyfriends do you have” or “I would love to have kids”. There is a time and place for this. Offer a little information that creates a small amount of vulnerability and let them know you are human. For example, when I first started dating my wife I told her that I grew up the middle child of two sisters and that is most likely why I am able to handle “chick-flicks”. I could of been judged on this but instead it was a source of humor and connection.
PRINCIPLE #3
LETS BE FRIENDS
Regardless of your dating goals, it is more than okay to establish “non-romantic” relationships. In the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, researchers found that couples who value their friendship over other aspects of their relationships report greater romance and sexual satisfaction over couples who look to their partners mostly for sexual gratification. Take the time to get to know somebody and establish a foundation to build off of. Sex is one aspect of a relationship and is popular thing for couples to focus on. If you meet somebody out, focus on building a genuine connection and not simply a physical one.
I hope you are able to find these 3 principles useful in your
search for that special somebody.
by YouTime Coaching | Jul 21, 2014 | Uncategorized
by YouTime Coaching | Jul 1, 2014 | Uncategorized
The basic building blocks of your life’s journey and the decisions you make are your beliefs and the code you live by. For some, religion may provide these pieces. For others, past life experiences could contribute. Our belief system is dynamic and is pieced together from a wide array of sources.
After attending for the second time the Bonnaroo Music Festival 2014, I decided on reading their “Code and Terms” in the festival info section. This is where I realized two things. First, these “codes” are meant for everybody, everywhere, at any time. Second, I saw this “code” actually be put into effect and the result was 90,000-100,000 people in one area for 4 days maintaining peace.
Now I present to you, “The Rules of Life: According to the Bonnaroo Music Festival”
1. PREPARE THY SELF
Bonnaroo Meaning: Pack the right stuff for the blazing Tennessee sun and four days of no showering.
Life Meaning: One thing that makes humans unique is their ability to project into the future, to predict outcomes and prepare themselves. Unfortunately, we are not always accurate and can not always predict what life will bring our way. It has a funny way of throwing curve balls and wrenches at us sometimes.
Make sure you are equipped with effective coping mechanisms, support, and resources to battle even the hardest of life’s challenges.
2. PLAY AS A TEAM
Bonnaroo Meaning: There is going to be so many friggin people here, just help each other out and all will be good.
Life Meaning: Whether you like it or not, we all need some help sometimes. Lend a hand and support those around you, others will see and want to help back. Most of the time, people appreciate at least an offer to help let alone an actual helping hand. This could mean helping your partner out or a complete stranger. Either way, be the example of what a good teammate is.
3. RADIATE POSITIVITY
Bonnaroo Meaning: You are pretty much on vacation. Listen to awesome music, eat, hang out and be merry.
Life Meaning: Ever heard of “Debbie Downer”? Negativity is infectious, well so is positivity. Don’t just simply feel positive, radiate it so others will see. Research shows that positive emotions and events add to your happiness. Be pro-active in your positivity. Radiate the hell out of it.
4. RESPECT THE FARM
Bonnaroo Meaning: Don’t throw trash on the ground, nobody wants to be sitting in your garbage. Use one of the hundreds of recycling, compost, and trash can around you.
Life Meaning: Respect your environment. This doesn’t simply mean to recycle, throw your trash in a can, or be more green, it also means to respect your own home, room, and body. Eat healthy, exercise, and keep your personal spaces clean. A clean body and clean home is a happy person!
5. DON’T BE THAT GUY/GAL
Bonnaroo Meaning: There are plenty of things to complain about. The heat, your legs hurting from standing so long, or the lack of showering at the festival. Don’t bring down your own positive vibe along with your friends.
Life Meaning: Life has challenging moments and we ALL experience them. Even when things are less then optimal, keep in mind that your mindset and emotions don’t just affect you and have an impact on those around you. Remember to search for the positive in all that is thrown your way and to radiate positivity.
6. STAY TRUE ROO
Bonnaroo Meaning: When at Bonnaroo, everybody gets a long and thoroughly enjoys themselves. The problem is that Bonnaroo lasts only 4 days and your life continues afterwards. Implement the positive things you learned at Bonnaroo into your everyday life.
Life Meaning: Don’t radiate positivity for one day. Don’t lend a helping hand one time. Don’t find the positive in one circumstance. Don’t treat your body and space with respect 1 day out of the week. Implement these strategies as frequently as possible and create your new normal!
If this code of ethics can get almost 100,000 people to be peaceful and happy for four days, I believe it can work for you.
Examine your current lifestyle and see which “Rule of Life” you could afford to implement more frequently. Share your experience on YouTime Coaching’s Facebook page –> YouTime’s FB Page
