by Jonathan Wolf | Apr 17, 2025 | ADHD, Advice, Behavior, college, Communication, Consistency, Energy, Expectations, Focus, Mindset, Motivation, parents, Sports, Teenagers
ADHD and Why It Matters in Sports
ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) affects millions of students — and a growing number of high school and college athletes. We can get one thing straight: ADHD isn’t just about forgetting homework or bouncing off walls — it also shows up on the field, court, track, or wherever your kid is trying to shine in sports.
While ADHD is often discussed in academic settings, it plays a big role in how athletes focus, train, compete, and recover. If your high school or college athlete has ADHD, you’ve probably seen it already. One second, they’re crushing it; the next, they’re staring into space while their coach explains a drill for the third time.
If you’re a parent of a student-athlete with ADHD, a high school or college athlete managing symptoms, or a coach working with neurodiverse players, understanding how ADHD impacts sports is crucial. Let’s talk about how ADHD messes with (and sometimes boosts) sports performance — and what to do about it.
Whether the young person is in middle-school, high-school or college it can sometimes be quite challenging to distinguish between “normal” and “could use some help” (especially these days). So let’s clear a couple things up first regarding “help”.
How ADHD Affects Athletic Performance
Athletes with ADHD may bring a ton of passion and energy to the field — but they also face unique challenges. Here’s how ADHD can influence sports:
INCONSISTENT FOCUS
- Trouble following multi-step instructions
- Drifting attention during plays, drills, or team meetings
- Zoning out at key moments
IMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR
- Jumping the gun on plays
- Taking risks without thinking them through
- Higher rates of fouls or penalties
EMOTIONAL REACTIVITY
- Frustration can spiral quickly after mistakes
- Trouble bouncing back from criticism or losses
- Difficulty regulating emotions under stress
SLEEP AND RECOVERY STRUGGLES
- Many athletes with ADHD have disrupted sleep cycles
- Poor sleep = slower reaction times, lower energy, and higher injury risk
INCREASED INJURY RISK
A study in Sports Health found that college athletes with ADHD are more likely to get injured — likely due to impulsivity or distraction during play.
ADHD Strengths in Sports
It’s not all challenges. In fact, ADHD can be a superpower in the right athletic environment.
- High energy: Ideal for high-intensity or endurance sports
- Hyper-focus: Being locked in and maintaining a deep concentration during games
- Creativity: Thinking outside the box can lead to smart and unexpected plays
Practical Strategies for Success
FOR STUDENT-ATHLETES WITH ADHD:
Use short-term goals:
Break practice into 10-15 minute mental time blocks with “missions” for each block.
Create a pre-game routine:
Use the same warm-up (include mental rehearsal, paced breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and an inner-dialogue script to help cue/prime), create a “hype” and “chill” playlist, and be consistent because consistency = less chaos
Ask questions to get clarity:
Don’t pretend to understand a play — clarify it with one of the coaches or another player. Ask for DIRECTIONS or a different way of explaining something if you need it.
Move during downtime:
Stretch, pace, or shake out between drills
Cool down mentally:
Journal, breathe or debrief after games or practices
Prioritize sleep:
No screens in bed, and try to keep
consistent sleep/wake times
Work with your doctor on meds:
Timing matters for performance (with both stimulant and non-stimulant medications)
FOR coaches working WITH athletes who have ADHD:
keep instruction clear and short.
Adhd impacts working memory and sustained attention. Communicating in this way will help reduce some of those added challenges.
repeat key information or provide an ADDITIONAL visual or kinesthetic example
most people learn through a combination of teaching styles. some players may need you or a teammate to physically demonstrate, write directions down, or HAVE a visual cue, and others may need directions repeated.
allow movement between drills
Movement can help with focus. Come up with a couple of exercises and movements that are appropriate for the environment. the goal is to provide structure and support that will allow for self-regulation while minimizing distractions for others.
Don’t over-personalize the behaviors:
frequently, fidgeting AND quick/intense EMOTIONS can be perceived as disrespect. with someone who has adhd, it is typically far from the truth.
help build emotional resilience after setbacks:
Journal, breathe, or debrief after games and practices.
connection over consequence:
ask how you can support them, not just discipline them.
FOR parents of athletes with ADHD:
Build routines at home:
Focus on establishing routines around getting your gear together, meals and snacks, and bedtime
Talk to your kid(s) about how adhd can show up in sports:
Use this article or the resources at the end to guide your conversation.
normalize needing extra support
adhd is a NEURODEVELOPMENTAL disorder, not a character flaw. there are plenty of professional athletes facing the same struggle and need extra support.
advocate with coaches and school staff:
adhd support doesn’t stop in the classroom. plus, someone with adhd needs to have that advocacy muscle to flex. leading by example provides positive modeling for the young person.
focus on progress, not perfection:
Your kid’s inner critic is likely already too harsh, so focus on progress and the process VS. outcomes and perfection. adhd minds frequently have issues with “all or nothing thinking, “ so teach them to live in the gray sometimes.
Helpful ADHD Resources for Student-Athletes and Families
Helpful ADHD Resources for Student-Athletes and Families
Final Takeaway: ADHD Isn’t a Limitation — It’s a Playbook You Need to Learn
Whether you’re a parent, a coach, or an athlete on the field, understanding ADHD is the key to unlocking performance, potential, and peace of mind.
ADHD athletes are not broken—they’re just built differently. They can reach their optimal performance with the right structure, support, and mindset.
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by YouTime Coaching | Jun 25, 2019 | Advice, Anxiety, Arguments, Behavior, Emotions, Expectations, Failure, parenting, parents, Uncategorized
The gymnastics of raising a child is one of the most memorable and rewarding experiences even when the role of being a parent challenges us to the core. Reactive Parenting is a direct response to those challenges.
Parenting is unique as it tests your boundaries on a daily basis and those tests frequently evolve. As a kid develops from infancy through adolescence and early adulthood, they will provide a parent with plenty of opportunities to carve out their own style of handling all that is thrown at them.
The way that a parent communicates and interacts with their child can affect their overall functioning and development in a multitude of ways. While there are pros and cons to various existing parenting techniques, one of the most detrimental is reactive parenting. Keep in mind that parents exhibit a variety of parenting styles and this is not an “all or nothing” discussion. We are talking about when reactive parenting dominates the household, drives most of the interactions, and is (for whatever reason) the most frequent “go to” response.
Reactive parenting is where a parent, acts on
their emotions when responding to a child’s
behavior.
This often times results in interactions fueled by anger, aggression, irritation, and hostility. Some examples of reactive parenting include using the phrases, “Stop” or “Right. We will not be going to/doing that” or constantly using commanding language like “Do/don’t do that”. These types of interactions will find their way into day to day life with a child and in some cases are necessary.
As someone who was born in 1985, I am very aware of the “snowflake” argument. Some parents attempt to raise their kids without reprimanding them, avoiding the use of words such as “no” or “bad (girl/boy)”. While the solution in many minds is likely quite simple, the problems are typically a little more complex. Parents verbalizing criticisms will not disappear any time soon and this is not inherently the problem. Projecting you’re own anger, impatience, and frustrations onto a child is an issues that falls in-line with reactive parenting and will usually come with direct side effects. So, what are some of the reasons for why a parent might be more reactive instead of proactive in their approach to parenting?
Three reasons for being prone to reactive parenting:
- Feeling overwhelmed
One of the most frequent things you hear from new parents is that there is a severe lack of sleep. Now that the kids are a little more grown up it doesn’t mean that things like work, relationships, money, or other sources of stress won’t interrupt your sleep cycle. Lack of sleep is a huge contributor to stress and anxiety.
Just think of visiting a friend who just got a puppy. It small, fuzzy, cuddly, cute and screams, “take me home” with their eyes. Suddenly, it pees on the ground. Do you, A) Point your finger at it and yell “bad dog” and stick their nose in it, B) Hit and yell at the puppy, C) Not get angry, because after all it’s not your house, not your puppy, and not your problem. So you just let the owner know what happened (please choose “C”). You are able to do this because you are able to separate yourself from the emotions around the puppy having an accident. You create space for objectivity. Also, keep in mind that the catalyst for being stressed/overwhelmed could be something unrelated to your kid (but your kid won’t know this).
2. H.A.L.T.: Feeling Hunger, Anger, Loneliness, and/or Tiredness
The H.A.L.T. strategy can help identify times where you need to take a step back, create some space, satisfy an underlying need, and re-approach more strategically. When you first wake up, come home from work, had a late night, had an argument (you get it), simply ask yourself if you are hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. If so, find a way to meet that need before moving forward with any other major decisions, conversations, or interactions.
3. Negatively reinforced learned behavior from other parental figures
This is just one of the reasons why reactive parenting is so detrimental to child behavior. The parent-child relationship is the first major relationship to develop in a child’s life and shapes the child’s perspective of what healthy relationships should look like. You are a parent, but at one point was a child with parents that had particular parenting styles. Sometimes particular behaviors are replicated when that was what you were raised like, while others are sometimes overcompensated to “prevent” feelings that you had growing up. These forces that impact our behaviors or sometimes invisible to us, so take a second to think about how your biography is shaping your child’s prologue.
Reactive parenting could lead children into thinking that negative and even abusive relationships are normal when they really are not. Children learn a substantial amount of how the world works and how they should behave in the world from their parents. Therefore, parents who use reactive parenting are teaching their children that reacting with anger and frustration towards their children is the correct way to parent.
Curious about your parenting style? Try Psych Central’s Parenting Style Quiz HERE.
by YouTime Coaching | May 9, 2019 | Academics, Advice, alcohol, Anxiety, Arguments, Behavior, Certainty, Children, Communication, Confidence, Depression, Expectations, Fear, happiness, Motivation, parenting, parents, Relationships, Sadness, Self-Esteem, Teenagers, Uncategorized, Uncertainty
As hard as it is to admit, when I was in high-school, I bullied kids. Let me explain…
I didn’t take their lunches (I was a 6ft lanky fella who could have easily been beat up), get in physical fights, give out wedgies and hang them up by their underwear, or shove people into lockers. I was into sports, had popular friends, usually had a popular girlfriend, was invited to junior and senior parties as a freshman and sophomore, and dressed nice.
On the inside, none of that shit really mattered. I was incredibly anxious, insecure (pro at hiding it), constantly questioned where I stood in the eyes of others and typically felt inadequate because of self-comparison.
My bullying method of choice in high-school was mental warfare. I would insult other people about how they looked, moved, ate, spoke, and just about anything else they was available for others to see. In my insecure teenage mind, if I put someone down 10 social/confidence points then I would go up 10 points and so on. Making fun of others to feel better about myself was the currency and I was rich in that respect, but oh was I super fucking poor in more important areas.
You see, I had convinced myself that this was the fast way to feeling confident, happy, accepted, and comfortable. Unfortunately, this method breeds the opposite feelings and sets you on a really challenging trajectory.
A kid’s search for acceptance is very messy.
As a parent, you may not agree with the decisions your kid is making and that is completely fine. Coming from a place of, “I can understand why you would do this but it doesn’t make it excusable”, is a healthy mindset.
As a Freshman on Varsity soccer and baseball, I was hanging out with the “super cool” Juniors and Seniors. I started smoking weed, drinking, and finding ways to “fit in” with others because I wasn’t sure at all about myself. I managed to get “good enough” grades so people would stay off my back and expect just a little less out of me compared to others. I got into trouble at home and in school, with the exception being sports. Sports was special because I was able to channel many of the tough emotions (anger/sadness) into physical output. It was the closet thing I knew to a direct correlation between how much personal effort I put in and how much positive feedback I got out of it. It kept me more in line than anything else at the time.
One thing I know for sure is that if you put all your eggs in one basket for support, as a crutch, and tie it to your identify then you run the risk of a crisis down the line. That’s what happened next.
After high-school graduation, I moved up to New England to play baseball for the University of Rhode Island (notice how I didn’t say “to be a student” or “to major in…”). On September 17th, which just so happened to be my birthday as well as two weeks after I moved-in and less than a week before training started, I broke my left pitching elbow. Getting my legs taken out from under me playing (sober) soccer on a basketball court did me in. It was the ending of baseball career before if started and the beginning of a crisis.
I have to be a student now?
That’s not what I signed up for but it was my new reality. It caused significant anxiety, panic attacks, a desire to isolate myself. Since I’m left handed and broke that elbow, I couldn’t write and so I stopped going to a lot of classes or just never took notes which led to my gpa being an impressive 2.4.
Things got a little worse before they got massively better and I credit where I’m at today with reaching out for outside support.
In the final two years of undergrad, my gpa was almost a 4.0. The first year out I worked psych research with detained adolescence, got accepted and went to Boston University’s Sport Psychology and Counseling Master’s program (on a 75% scholarship and finishing with a 3.9 gpa), and have been running a Youth, Family, and Adult Life Coaching company for 10+ years.
We live in a world where it’s all too common for kids to be shamed for their weirdness and uniqueness. It teaches them to turn AWAY from their uniqueness and TOWARD… acceptance.
With kids, this basically means trying to “fit in”, conform, and act within the group norms. Conformity has its appropriate place and time as does groups norms, but having kids turn AWAY from their weirdness and uniqueness because of shame, uncertainty of what their social status will be, or whether they think others (including parents) will accept them will in no doubt backfire for them in the future.
Every week, I see the impact this has on young people. I hear them share perspectives and stories on how they feel as though they are “putting on a show”, “don’t know who they are”, “will lose friends in a second if they don’t…[insert superficial factor]”, how they “don’t feel good enough”, and how they “feel that they can’t act like themselves around their parents and most of their friends”.
I see a little bit of me in each of them.
It’s sad, but it’s real and the solution starts at home. Parenting is tough, being a kid is tough, and it’s not about placing your kid in a bubble. No bulldozer, helicopter, or tiger parenting here. We need to get back to a place where we put down our screens, have them put theirs down too, listen and communicate with empathy and honesty, find out what kinds of weirdness/uniqueness they have, help them explore it, and teach them ways to persevere.
Parents need to have boundaries (which are seen as a source of love from kids), talk about the tough topics, incentivize healthy behavior but also (appropriately) discipline poor choices. Yes, this can be done compassionately and keeping in tact the message that you love and support them.
This can happen anywhere, but it starts in the home.
by YouTime Coaching | Mar 14, 2019 | Academics, Children, college, determination, Emotions, Focus, Motivation, parenting, parents, Support
Will your kid struggle as a freshman in college? Absolutely. Does the experience always need to be negative and feel like nothing good comes from it? Absolutely not.
When a kid is sent to college the exodus from being a child and living within their parent’s home to being a young adult truly begins. One major problem… teenagers being forced into an adult world, without being mentally equipped and prepared like an adult can lead to a lot of… [parents, fill in the blank]
Now Mom and Dad, please sit down and take three deep breathes because things are going to be alright.
Download our free parent assessment to see if your kid is truly
struggling and needs some additional support:
The Skinny On Your Freshman’s Struggle
Sure, your freshman kid could sustain some physical and emotional wounds during their college experience, but you kind of signed them up for it. Listen, all those nights you got on them for watching tv and making sure they started studying, the nights you made them their favorite dinner, those times you washed/dried their clothes (and probably folded), and the genuine efforts to hold to an 11pm curfew has all finally paid off.
They will have to do most or all of these things on their own now! [cue horror film music]
The question isn’t, “will my kid struggle?” it is, “how will they struggle and how will we respond?”.
To help you out a bit, here are some of the top re-occurring struggles for college students. I’ll include some pointers and a few “heads-up”.
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A FEW TOP COLLEGE STRUGGLES:
1. Homesickness
Some parents love the fact that their kid misses home, while also sympathizing with them. Keep in mind that homesickness is just as much about needs that are not being met at school as it is missing what they used to have. When you do get the coveted phone call from your freshman kid at school, listen to them closely and just maybe you will be able to see if their homesickness is a result of having challenging classes, finding it hard to connect with others, or if they simply want a care package mailed to them (always a winner).
2. Organization
College is typically more demanding than high-school in terms of work and very frequently much less structured in terms of homework/study time. This transition can be challenging for freshman and It is common to see a slip in grades because of this in addition to managing all their new freedoms. From frequently losing their cell phone or homework to their train of thought, organization can impact both physical and mental arenas. If your freshman kid shows signs of struggle with their organization skills, don’t panic. Together, look into a coaching program like www.YouTimeCoach.com and/or looking into the schools learning center services.
3. Sleep
When we are the ones lacking sleep, it is easy to notice the difference. Freshmen in college have this notion that they must perform at least 4 all-nighters the first semester, set a world record for cups of coffee or red bulls in a night, and put their ZZZ’s on the back burner. The reason behind this could be school work, a noisy environment, health issues, or higher priorities (pretty much everything). The college experience has so much to offer a freshman student, but this can create some priority confusion and FOMO (fear of missing out). A little trick, as your kid comes back for the holiday, take note of their sleep patterns. Typically the kids pulling late night study (or party) sessions will sleep in pretty late the first few nights home.
Keep these pieces of information handy for when your kid shows signs and symptoms of struggle. The best thing you can do for your kid is to be supportive, actively listen to them, empathize, and practice the skill of being non-judgmental. The pay off will be far greater than reacting through fear and anxiety.
Any questions regarding your kid, college, and their struggles?
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by Jonathan Wolf | Jan 8, 2019 | Anxiety, Children, Communication, parenting, parents, Teenagers
It’s been on Dr. Phil.
Traditional therapy in an office setting can work for many, but for some, it’s tough to get off the ground. Don’t give up, because, for those that have tried or are adverse to traditional therapy, there are many options. One great option is Animal-Assisted Therapy (AAT). It’s possible you have heard about this type of therapy on Dr. Phil, The Doctors, or Dr. Oz, but it’s your lucky day. Read on as Charlsey Gentile, Owner of Life Is Golden Coaching and practitioner of Animal Assisted Therapy explains a bit more about AAT.
Imagine this — you are taking an enjoyable walk on a cool autumn afternoon where the leaves are changing and the sun is shining. While on your walk you see someone sitting on a bench. What do you do:
- Walk by?
- Say Hello?
- Smile?
- Pay no attention at all?
- Approach the person and engage in conversation?
In Comes Animal Assisted Therapy (AAT):
New scenario — it starts the same way, yet the only difference is that the person sitting on the bench is with their dog. Do you react differently in this situation than in the one above? Research shows that people are more inclined to approach an/or engage with others if they have a dog with them (UCLA’s Findings on Animal Assisted Therapy).
Now imagine you or maybe your child, are about to embark upon a first counseling session. This can often make one feel vulnerable. As humans, we tend to be judgemental of ourselves and feel that others may also be judging us. Now imagine that a dog is at the counseling session. Did you smile or maybe feel less nervous about the situation? Does this sound like a welcomed addition to counseling? If so, you are in luck! This practice actually exists and it is called Animal-Assisted Therapy (AAT).
AAT is when a professional in a specific field pair with a trained and certified animal to help enhance his or her practice. For counseling, dogs can function as a distraction, a point of common interest to start the conversation, help in developing the counseling relationship, and be a non-judgemental (albeit passive) participant in the sessions.
Benefits of AAT:
To top it all off, the presence of an animal and/or the act of petting an animal can do the following:
- Release feel-good hormones
- Help reduce anxiety
- Provide comfort
- Be an icebreaker
- Lower blood pressure
- Slow down breathing and heart rate
- Create a more enjoyable counseling environment.
For those who love (or even like dogs) or have children who do this can be a wonderful option when looking for support in your own journey.
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by YouTime Coaching | Sep 26, 2017 | Advice, Anxiety, Attitudes, boundaries, Children, Communication, Compromise, Consistency, Decisions, Emotions, Expectations, Failure, Fear, Fighting, Focus, Life Coaching, Listening, parenting, parents, positive reinforcement, Trust
As a parent, ever wonder what is going on inside your kid’s mind?
Through the positive work we have completed with adolescence, young adults, and families we’ve heard and seen almost everything. Kids want their freedom (sometimes without responsibility) and respect, while parents struggle with communication, setting boundaries, and timing.
Here are ten real thoughts direct from clients about their parents.
#1 I can’t talk to them because they will just get angry at me.
#2 All they care about are grades.
#3 They tell me to stop doing things that they do all the time and it’s bullshit.
#4 They won’t understand if I told them or will make me feel like it isn’t important.
#5 They choose when it’s convenient to say no and get upset.
#6 I don’t want to be like them.
#7 I tell them what they want to hear.
#8 When I actually try to talk to them about something that happened, I just get in trouble.
#9 When you start lecturing, I stop listening.
#10 When you trash my friends, I start disliking you, not them.
Remember, parenting is an imperfect process and so is being a kid. We are not sharing this list so you can take on all of the items one by one, instead, use it as a guide to see where more attention could be placed. When it comes to your kid’s motivation things can drastically change as they get older but if you’re able to adapt with the times, stay hip, and simultaneously hold true to healthy principles then this process could be easier on you.
Here’s just one easier way to think about motivation. Remember, in parenting, effort counts.
What goes into your kid’s motivation?
Just like when a kid doesn’t get their way, the thoughts kids have about their parents are changing by the minute. The importance behind these thoughts is where the focus should lay. Communication is typically always an underlying relationship issue between parents and kids. Check out these other blogs for helpful tips on communication with your teens, How to Love Your Kids When They Are Tough to Love and Do NOT Try to be Your Child’s Best Friend.
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