BLOOD PRESSURE Every 2 years or annually if high/low
FASTING CHOLESTEROL Every 5 years or more frequently with an abnormal test result
DENTAL HEALTH Annual check up
EYE HEALTH Every 2 years or as doctor recommends
IMMUNIZATIONS Tetanus-diphtheria at age 19 and annual flu vaccine
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES Regular Checks and HPV vaccine if appropriate
SKIN CANCER Look for marks or changes on your skin and have a doctor do an annual skin check
TESTICULAR CANCER Monthly self-exam, especially if there is a family history
BLOOD PRESSURE Every 2 years or annually if high/low
FASTING CHOLESTEROL Every 5 years or more frequently with an abnormal test result
DENTAL HEALTH Annual check up
EYE HEALTH Every 2 years or as doctor recommends
IMMUNIZATIONS Tetanus-diphtheria booster every 10 years and annual flu vaccine
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES Regular checks, if appropriate
SKIN CANCER Look for marks or changes on your skin and have a doctor do an annual skin check
TESTICULAR CANCER Monthly self-exam, especially if there is a family history
BLOOD PRESSURE Every 2 years or annually if high/low
FASTING CHOLESTEROL & INFLAMMATION MARKERS Every 3-5 years or more frequently with an abnormal test result
DENTAL HEALTH Annual check up
DIABETES Blood sugar test –hemoglobin A1c– at age 45, or earlier if overweight or other risk factors are present
EYE HEALTH Every 2 years or as doctor recommends
IMMUNIZATIONS Tetanus-diphtheria booster every 10 years and annual flu vaccine
PROSTATE CANCER Baseline PSA test if African-American or there is a family history; age 50 otherwise
SKIN CANCER Look for marks or changes on your skin and have a doctor do an annual skin check
DISCUSS WITH YOUR DOCTOR The role of aspirin to lower risks for certain cancers and heart disease. The role of statins (cholesterol lowering drugs) for prevention of heart disease
BLOOD PRESSURE Every 2 years or annually if high/low
FASTING CHOLESTEROL & INFLAMMATION MARKERS Every 3-5 years or more frequently with an abnormal test result
COLORECTAL CANCER Annual check up
DENTAL HEALTH Annual check up
DIABETES Annual check up
EYE HEALTH Every 2 years or as doctor recommends
IMMUNIZATIONS Tetanus-diphtheria booster every 10 years and annual flu vaccine
OSTEOPOROSIS If risk factors are present
PROSTATE CANCER Annual check up
SKIN CANCER Look for marks or changes on your skin and have a doctor do an annual skin check
DISCUSS WITH YOUR DOCTOR The role of aspirin to lower risks for certain cancers and heart disease. The role of statins (cholesterol lowering drugs) for prevention of heart disease
ABDOMINAL ULTRASOUND Men between ages 65–75 who have smoked
BLOOD PRESSURE Every 2 years or annually if high/low
FASTING CHOLESTEROL & INFLAMMATION MARKERS Every 5 years or more frequently with an abnormal test result
COLORECTAL CANCER Annual check up
DENTAL HEALTH Annual check up
DIABETES Every 3 years or as doctor recommends
EYE HEALTH Every 2 years or as doctor recommends
IMMUNIZATIONS Tetanus-diphtheria booster every 10 years, annual flu vaccine, and shingles/herpes zoster vaccine once after age 60
HEARING If you are over age 65, have your hearing checked
OSTEOPOROSIS If risk factors are present
PROSTATE CANCER Annual check up
SKIN CANCER Look for marks or changes on your skin and have a doctor do an annual skin check
DISCUSS WITH YOUR DOCTOR The role of aspirin to lower risks for certain cancers and heart disease. The role of statins (cholesterol lowering drugs) for prevention of heart disease
ABDOMINAL ULTRASOUND Men between ages 65–75 who have smoked
BLOOD PRESSURE Every 2 years or annually if high/low
FASTING CHOLESTEROL & INFLAMMATION MARKERS Every 5 years or more frequently with an abnormal test result
COLORECTAL CANCER Annual check up
DENTAL HEALTH Annual check up
DIABETES Every 3 years or as doctor recommends.
EYE HEALTH Every 2 years or as doctor recommends
IMMUNIZATIONS Tetanus-diphtheria booster every 10 years, annual flu vaccine, and pneumococcal vaccine after age 65
HEARING Annual check up
PROSTATE CANCER Annual check up
SKIN CANCER Look for marks or changes on your skin and have a doctor do an annual skin check
DISCUSS WITH YOUR DOCTOR The role of aspirin to lower risks for certain cancers and heart disease. The role of statins (cholesterol lowering drugs) for prevention of heart disease
Trust is an important thing for many people. It is also an interesting topic to bring up in conversation. When you ask another individual about their thoughts on trust, they typically will have a quick response, such as, “It is very important to have trust.”, or “You need to earn trust.” If we assume that both of those above statements are true than we must ask ourselves these two questions: 1. Is it really that important to have trust? 2. How much trust needs to be earned? During my “Techniques for Success Group”, I asked the individuals, “Why is it important to trust somebody?” The response I got was that of a crowd that did not speak the same language as me, silence. I decided on switching up the question and asked the group, “Why is it bad to trust somebody?”, and suddenly they knew what to say. Within 10 seconds I received feedback that would make you truly believe that trust is something horrible you want to stay away from.
“Trusting people gets you hurt”
“You get screwed over”
“People take advantage of you”
“You become weaker to other people”
The human mentality to pursue pleasure (instant gratification) and avoid pain has made even the ability to trust a painful thing. So what needs to happen? In order to reestablish our trust in trust, we must follow the “Top 2 Ways to Improve Trust”. I. Finally give ourselves some credit! Although we may believe that others need to “earn your trust”, you give out enough for free. Humans inherently want to love and be loved by others. This allows us to trust people right away. Of course, the degree of trust and the events that can diminish or ignite it can vary greatly, but as a whole, we innately want to trust other humans. Have you said hi to a stranger in the past 30 days, had a conversation with somebody you didn’t know too well, or played on a sports team before? If you said yes to any of these questions, you are guilty of instilling trust into another human instantly. We do this all of the time, and that is ok, even great at times. Understanding that there is a standard amount of instant trust you allow for each individual (will vary per individual) and learning how to build on it will allow you to fulfill your need of connection/love far greater and faster than before. GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT! II. The Million Dollar Question to building trust.
After acknowledging and accepting that you allow other individuals to have a small amount of “instant” trust and giving yourself credit for it, you must ask yourself this question.
If you were to be paired with a complete stranger and placed in a room for 1 hour with the goal being to leave the room 1 hour later trusting each other the most possible, what would you be doing during that hour? This simple question that is easy for some and near impossible for others will create a cheat sheet for easy ways to develop secure connections and trust.
Some of you may remember Fred Rogers as an American educator, Presbyterian minister, songwriter, author, or television host, but most remember simply by saying “Mister Rogers”. Each episode of “Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood” began the same way: Mister Rogers is seen coming home, singing his theme song “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?”, and changing into his sneakers and infamous old man cardigan sweater.
I am pretty confident that Mister Rogers made cardigans look cool for first time ever, or maybe it is just the comfortable old man in me speaking.
What many people didn’t know about Fred Roger is how much of an advocate he was.
May 1, 1969
President Nixon attempts to decrease funding to PBS by 50% ($20 million –> $10 million).
Fred Rogers goes before the Senate to defend the funding to PBS.
Fred Rogers defends children, the messages we send to our younger population through television, the mental health field, therapy/counseling, and emotional expression.
Fred Rogers proclaims the dramatic power of emotional expression amongst men (at this time many male soldiers were coming back from Vietnam).
In the late 1960’s, Fred Rogers made it crystal clear that he was deeply concerned with what was being delivered to our children via television and radio. Working with children most of his life, Fred, was driven to understand children’s needs and the “inner drama of childhood”.
For those parents that wish to provide their children with the best opportunities given your situation and resources listen closely to the message being conveyed by Fred Rogers.
“This is what I give. I give an expression of care
every day to each child,
to help him realize that he is unique.”
Mister Rogers focuses on fulfilling a child’s need of significance and connection/love.
He fulfills their need of significance through making the children feel unique, important, and noticed by just being who they are, nothing more.
He fulfills their need of connection/love through listening to the children, spending time with them, and overtly vesting interest in their well-being.
Here are a few messages Fred was trying to get across in his Senate Hearing in 1969:
1. You are unique, just the way you are
2. Feelings are mentionable and manageable
3. Managing your feelings is far more dramatic then showing violence
4. We can model these principles through television and parenting
Watch the actual Senate Hearing in 1969 and see how Fred Rogers gets Senator Pastore of Rhode Island to admit he got “goosebumps”.
If you are a parent, grandparent, sibling, babysitter, nanny, or anyone that has been around a baby for more than a few seconds I am sure there have been a few moments when you said to yourself,
“Okay baby, I would of done the same thing.”
This brings up an interesting question of whether or not babies and adults make decisions the same way.
On many levels an adult’s ability to make rational, safe, healthy, and mindful decisions are far different than that of a baby, but what if the driving forces and motivations behind our decisions were the same?
My decision is…
I choose…
As humans, we ALL have needs and those needs must be met. When they are not met we tend to end up in the following situations:
unhealthy relationships
arguments
sacrificing happiness
meaningless employment
lack of fulfillment
decreased motivation
lack of confidence
The catch here is that adults have the ability to learn how to meet our needs in unhealthy ways, such as:
abusive relationships
one-sided friendships
drug/alcohol use (social use, abuse, and dependency)
pursuing very easy (non challenging) tasks
pursuing extremely hard tasks(near impossible based on our ability level)
maintaining a depressed state
maintaining an anxious state
*This list to simply a fraction of how we can meet needs in unhealthy ways.
You may be wondering what those needs are…
Without further adieu I present to you the “6 Human Needs” that drive our decision making process and motivate our behaviors (regardless of age).
Certainty:
Our need to be safe, secure, and comfortable. The need to know that will we experience pleasure and avoid pain.The feeling of knowing everything will be okay.
Variety:
The need for physical and mental stimulation. Our need to experience various emotions, physical sensations, and mental states.
Connection/Love:
The need to be love and connected with others. Our need to be part of something bigger (a group, family, club, friendship, religion, political party..etc). As human, we have a severe “fear of rejection” and ultimate fear of “not being worthy of love”, so we usually shy away from love and stick with the safe (and certain) connection with others.
Significance:
The need to feel noticed, important, unique, and worthy of attention.
Growth:
Our need to develop, grow, and expand through time.
Contribution:
The need to contribute outside and beyond ourselves as individuals.Many forms of contribution are volunteering, donating to charities, educating others, mentoring, and so on.
Individuals of all ages, make decisions and behave in particular ways based off of whether or not these needs are being met and to what degree they are satisfied.
“Real Life Practice” An assignment I usually give to my clients that I am passing on to you challenges them to look at this list and see which 2 needs drive and lead your life.
Doing this will allow you to understand why certain past decisions were made and how to be more mindful in the future.
Follow this, try to identify your significant other’s, spouse’s, or parent’s top 2 needs driving and leading their life. This will put you in a more tactful and understanding position when trying to understand where people close to you are coming from and how to interact with them.
Please share your thoughts and the progress you have been making on this blog below or on YouTime Coaching’s Facebook page! YouTime Coaching on Facebook
If not or you would like some redemption from a previous attempt, here is your chance.
So what is your guess?
70…
80…
90…
100?
WRONG!
This young lady is 114 years old
Say hi to Leila Denmark from Athens, Georgia.
Leila was born February 1, 1898.
You heard me, at the end of the 1800’s!
You see Leila was a Doctor and had practiced medicine for more than 70 years. Take a second to realize some of the world changing events she was present for, the entire industrial revolution, new vaccines, epidemics, massive wars, and thousands of deathly maladies. When Leila was 18, she wasn’t allowed to vote, because WOMEN WERE NOT ALLOWED TO VOTE IN 1916! She experience the Women’s Suffrage Movement.
Leila absolutely loved practicing medicine, connecting with others, and contributing to her world. She was so passionate about these concepts that she completely modeled her private practice on it.
Sounds nice, huh?
Somewhat ass backwards from our nation’s current health insurance situation.
Leila Denmark passed away April 1, 2012 in her hometown Athens, Georgia.
Although she is no longer with us, Leila left some powerful information and life lessons gained through her life and never let go of her core belief,
18 Life Lessons from a 114 year old Doctor:
1. Don’t abuse your body with junk food
2. Love what you do
3. Drinking cow’s milk is dangerous
4. Do your best to help others
5. Too much sugar is not a good thing
6. A sense of humor is very important for longevity
7. As a doctor, it’s important to find the root cause of a problem
8. Children are not getting parental guidance and it’s wrecking this nation
9. Kids in daycare are deprived of attention and catch too many illnesses
10. We need to think about everything we eat and drink
11. “Let’s do” is easier than do
12. Anything you have to do is work and anything you love to do is play
13. During the Great Depression, 11,000 of America’s 25,000 banks closed (Save what you can, appreciate what you have.)
14. Never raise your hand or your voice to a child
15. Parenting has gone out of style
16. Children and adults should eat fruit instead of drinking fruit juices
17. Drink only water
18. The greatest change she’s seen in her lifetime has been the neglect of little children
Raise your hand if you have seen these ads before.
David Beckham drinks milk and forgets to wipe off his upper lip.
Danica Patrick drinks milk and leaves it on her face.
Taylor Swift equally drinks milk and flaunts the residue.
Ok, put your hands down.
So if you have read the ads, like I did, what we can assume is:
David Beckham does NOT work out, he simply drinks milk.
NASCAR drivers work out (did you know this, because I didn’t.)
In the music industry apparently the most important decision to make is whether or not to drink milk, because this is how Taylor Swift got famous, skinny, and muscular all at the same time.
Does this make sense to you?
Milk has been for quite a long time our staple source of calcium.
The United States is habitually grazing the top of the list in milk production, consumption, and exporting.
If milk builds strong bones, than shouldn’t we have some of the strongest bones in the world? After all, we are at the top of the list in milk consumption.
This idea has made many scientists from some of the top universities (Harvard Medical, Cornell, Stanford, Yale, Tufts…etc) question milk as our source of calcium and decide to do some more research.
Their findings,
there is no significant research to prove that milk consumption strengthens bones and a growing body of research that shows milk does the opposite.
*These are not my opinions, nor the opinions of the Doctors that performed the studies. This is objective data.
If we drink the most milk, we should have the strongest bones (because that is what milk is supposed to do), but we have some of the weakest bones in world. There is a flaw in this logic.
When you walk into your local pharmacy go check out the supplement and vitamin sections. Count how many calcium supplements are there for you to purchase over the counter.
Pill Man
Why are there so many of these supplements here?
Do your own research, figure this one out, but in the meantime I have some vital advice.
Get your calcium from the food you eat.
This is a list of the some of the top calcium enriched foods to eat (that don’t cause osteoporosis):
So the next time you see a “Got Milk” advertisement channel your inner Anchor Man Ron Burgundy…
Remember when graduating from a College or University was a big deal for you and your family?
A decade later a belief that getting a Master’s degree was the new undergraduate degree?
And now, is getting a Doctorate the new norm?
The point is, WE DO NOT KNOW.
All of the assumptions about job certainty, salary, and the freedom to find enjoyable employment are up in the air with whatever degree you have. I was just forwarded the other day an article about how there is a massive increase in PhD level individuals that are receiving food stamps!
That screams uncertainty.
Last time I checked, “Certainty” was one of our 6 Humans Needs that we constantly try to fulfill.
When individuals, like you and I, do not have Certainty we have a higher tendency to be anxious, fearful, and stressed, which will very rarely help you find a job.
In the interview, notice how much focus is on Growth and Contribution for Becky.
Today I want to share with you an great example of a success story.
Her name is Rebekah and she has a job she loves. Rebekah and I sat down for a wonderful interview about her search for meaningful employment, how tough it was, her mindset going into the experience, and what results she saw. ENJOY!
Keep this quote in mind as you read the interview with Becky:
“When you know somebody’s strategy, you can duplicate ANYTHING great that has ever been done”
– Tony Robbins, Peak Performance Strategist
YouTime: Becky, you graduated from Boston University with a Master’s degree in Counseling with a specialization in Sport Psychology, did you believe finding a job would be an easy task?
Becky: Well, while I was in school I thought it would be easy but as I started hearing from professors, advisers, and peers that finding a job in the Sport Psychology field was very tough and that you would need to develop your own niche, I began to think twice.
YouTime: So after getting some of that feedback, how did it affect your mindset and beliefs about finding employment after graduation?
Becky: It was important that I stayed positive but had to be realistic about what I was about to dive into. The realistic part allowed me to go outside of getting the “perfect job”. I started to think of different types of jobs that I would be willing to work at. In the end, this helped widen my scope of possibilities.
Seem all too familiar?
YouTime: After you shifted your mindset and beliefs to being more positive and realistic, how did the job search actually play out?
Becky: It was a lot of work. I spent a lot of time connecting with the resources around me, friends, family, old colleagues, LinkedIn, and online job sites to find opportunities. I put in a lot of time doing searches, sending out materials, and following up.
YouTime: It sounds like you took a lot of action.
Becky: After school I was ready to move on to work and it definitely helped motivate me.
YouTime: So what kind of results did you see from the work you put in?
Becky: I had 5 interviews in 5 days and got a job within a month of graduating. I ultimately found the job on Craigslist.
YouTime: Those are some pretty impressive results! I am sure it felt great to have all your hard work pay off.
Becky: It definitely did. It was funny, I had to choose between a few different opportunities and decided to take a job I was supposedly “over-qualified” for and payed the least.
YouTime: What motivated you to make that decision?
Becky: When I went for the interview and found out more details about the job, which was a position in an all girls residential facility, I knew that I could help these kids without even meeting them. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but I knew a could contribute something great to their lives. It worked out great, this is how I connected with Doc Wayne and began working for them.
YouTime: Now you are the General Manager at the Doc Wayne Athletic League and have such an integral role in many youth’s lives. That must be very rewarding. Do you feel as though the role at Doc Wayne allows you to grow as an individual?
Becky: Before coming here I didn’t know my strengths as well and I didn’t have much self-confidence. I felt like I was just one person in a group of people with the same skills and strengths. Doc Wayne has helped me find my specialization in working with people and my strengths (once fears) of public speaking, working with trauma victims, and adolescent girls. When I was told I would be the “voice of the kids” the anxiety of public speaking left and I knew now that I had to advocate for them.
This is Becky, somebody who truly believes in their work.
What we can learn from Becky, her mindset, and experience is:
1. Your beliefs will directly impact your results
2. A massive amount of action must be taken
3. A shift in beliefs may be necessary to reach your outcome.
4. Look for something you enjoy, just because you are good at it doesn’t mean you will enjoy it.
5. Understand how it helps you grow and contribute outside of yourself.
Rebekah Conway Roulier, Ed.M. is the General Manager at the Doc Wayne Athletic League, Inc. a 501 (c)(3) and is responsible for sports programs and training of coaches in current and future markets, the enhancement of the organization’s do the good (DtG) therapeutic curriculum and management of the monitoring and evaluation systems. She comes to the Doc Wayne with an Ed.M. in Counseling with a Specialization in Sport Psychology and with extensive experience in coaching and work in youth services.
Rebekah has a B.A and Ed.M. from Boston University. Rebekah’s work with victims of complex trauma and underserved children includes experience in a residential treatment center, a position as an identity building consultant, and instructor for a positive psychology and sports program serving children and adolescents in the California juvenile justice system. She recently presented at The Northeast Atlantic Sport Psychology Conference (Philadelphia, PA) on “The Use of Sport in the Behavioral Health Treatment of Youth,” was a panelist on “Young Minds Behind Bars: The State of Mental Health Care within the Juvenile Justice System” sponsored by Wheelock College and presented on the ethics of sport at Moving Traditions Celebr8-U Conference.
In about a month I will embark on a half-day road trip down to Manchester, Tennessee for round two of one of the world’s biggest music festivals. It ranks as “#3 Most Eye-Opening Thing I’ve Ever Experienced” and once again will be with Kate (my fiancé), Whitney (my younger sister), and Scott (her boyfriend).
I wanted to share my previous experience with you once again! Here you go! If you gather together 100,000 people from all over the country and put them in a single location with access to alcohol and drugs, how much violence would occur?
From June 7-10th 2012 I witnessed something amazing.
On June 6th, I took the 15 hour journey down to Manchester, Tennessee with my girlfriend (now fiancé), little sister, and her boyfriend
Beautiful off highway scenery in Tennessee!
You may be asking, why would anyone ever go to Manchester, Tennessee? Simple… Bonnaroo Music Festival.
Center Roo Entrance
Bonnaroo Ferris Wheel
This festival features some of the top music artists of our time, of all time, and the future coming.With this being said, the festival drives 100,000 people to Manchester, Tennessee each year to check out some unbelievable music, eat some tasty food, and let loose.
So back to the original question. With this many people, personalities, and ingredients for disaster, how much violence and fighting do you believe could exist at Bonnaroo?
To put it in perspective…
After seeing those pictures, you will probably never allow your child to go to a concert again!
Unless, you were able to experience what I did from June 7-10th.
I witnessed 100,000 people over 4 entire days live together IN PEACE!
“After day two I had realized something was different, and it struck me. Everybody is getting along, making friends, and helping each other out.”
How is this possible? Research shows that the relationship between humans, drugs, and violence looks typically follows this pattern,
More People = More Cases of Violence Alcohol = More Cases of Violence Drugs = More Cases of Violence People, Alcohol, and Drugs = Lots of Cases Violence *I must make a disclaimer and say that there is a group known as “Soberoo”, who are music fans that maintain sobriety at Bonnaroo alongside many other individuals that do not use alcohol or illicit drugs while at the festival.
One of the dominating factors for this festival remaining peaceful is the human need and desire for connection.
We all wish to be unique, important, noticed, part of something larger, and/or involved in a community. This is the perfect opportunity for individuals to fulfill this need. The common connection between every individual there was their enjoyment of music. Individuals pay the $300+ price tag to experience some of the greatest music this country and world has to offer, not to fight. There is no volatile contested terrain.
A world where we can connect with other humans, be present for the same reasons, and enjoy being around others? Sounds like a Utopia to me.
My challenge to you, When an opportunity presents itself to connect with another individual over something you have in common, take it. Start with less threatening and vulnerable dialogue and build on from there.
If 100,000 people in Tennessee can do it for 96 hours straight, I have confidence you will be able to as well.
Lets begin with a simple definition of the word belief. For the purpose of how we will use the word, the definition of belief is,
a FEELINGof ABSOLUTE CERTAINTY that something is TRUE.
I hope I made it clear enough that there are three major factors in defining a belief.
1. It is a feeling
2. You are absolutely certain of this feeling
3. This feeling is true.
If you were to tell me that you believe you could of run in the Boston Marathon this past Monday, than you are saying, “I AM ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN I COULD RUN IN THE MARATHON”.
I would say, good luck against those Kenyans.
Now, what do beliefs have to do with success or failure?
Phase 2:
Take out a pen, pencil, or marker and draw this diagram.
Case 1: Potential & Results
Lets start in the top right hand corner.
Do human beings have a lot of potential?
YES!! Humans are capable of incredible things.
Do human beings live up to their potential, giving us equally as incredible results?
NO! Don’t get me wrong humans do amazing things, but, as a whole, humans are capable of doing a lot more for themselves, others, and the environment that they live in.
…So based off of the diagram above, what is the culprit for having
HIGH POTENTIAL, but LITTLE RESULTS?
You got it! There is not enough ACTION.
Case 2: Action & Results
So we need some more action to achieve great results, right?
Not necessarily.
Imagine I ask you to go around your neighborhood to 100 homes, knock on their doors, and try to sell them a new diet pill by saying,
“Hey Buddy, buy this pill from me”.
I BELIEVE, a vast majority would decline purchasing.
This proves that HIGH ACTION does not always yield HIGH RESULTS.
Case 3: Belief
Relationship Example:
Your friends tell you that they have someone that would be perfect for you. So you get set up on a date, but with a group of people (feels a little more safe). When you look at the man or woman that you are supposed to be set up with, you realize, holy shit they are gorgeous.
Suddenly…The feeling in the pit of your stomach. It is telling you, “I am not as good looking as them, they probably won’t go for me. A guy/girl like that only go for good-looking people, I’ve got no chance.”
With this BELIEF (revisit the definition up top), are you going to be at a “high potential” to get the guy/girl you are suppose to be set-up with?
No.
With this belief in addition to low potential, do you believe you are going to pursue this as much as possible?
No.
Why would you pursue something you know will not work and is a waste of time.
DEFEATING BELIEF + LITTLE POTENTIAL
+ LITTLE ACTION = ?????????
LITTLE and DISAPPOINTING RESULTS!
Phase 3:
Take the mindset of someone that is rich, poor, happy, or sad and you can easily see why this cycle can serve as being a breading ground for success or failure.
This is why the rich get richer, the poor get poorer, the happy get happier, and the sad get sadder!
It all comes down to our beliefs. What we feel is absolutely true.
Am I confident?
Am I good enough?
Am I smart enough?
Am I good looking enough?
Changing your attitude and belief about these concepts, will drastically change our cycle and results!
Make this your focus.
Revisit your beliefs today and see what you can change.
I don’t know if you caught the last sentence on this side, but I believe they made reference to people dying. Now honestly, the anxiety started creeping in right about there.
Some of you may have had similar experiences, while others find this type of activity as nothing but a walk in the park.
I am here to tell you 3 reasons to climb a Mountain.
1.The Pendulum Effect
Ever hear of the theory that if you haven’t experienced true sorrow, you can’t really experience true happiness? Kind of the same principle here. It is not until you experience a true fear or anxiety to genuinely appreciate the opposite swing of the pendulum, courage and certainty.
What you end up witnessing is that the event that caused you fear, actually took courage to be a part of and eventually confront.
And trust me, you will very much appreciate and recognize what tasks take true courage and bravery from there on out.
2. Breaking Down the Wall
When a runner claims they “hit a wall”, they are (hopefully) just expressing a metaphor for how tired they are.
In the picture at the top of the blog I was about 75% percent up the face of the Mountain. When the anxiety and fear kicked in, I had a few choices.
A) Stand there until the anxiety and fear went away.
Realistically, it wouldn’t have simply disappeared, at
least in no short period of time. So option A is out of
the question!
B) Jump
I love my life, didn’t have a parachute, and probably
would have increased my anxiety by simply thinking
about this. So option B is out!
C) Turn Around and Go Back Down
Next to that warning sign at the beginning of the
Mountain was another sign that said you are at an
extremely high risk of injury if you attempt to retreat
down the trail. This sign plus the fact that I was 75%
complete = option C not being an option!
D) Continue Forward
At this moment on the Mountain I was confronted with
a simple decision mixed a ton of complex thoughts. I
was forced to break down the “wall” in front of me
and tackle my anxiety.
I made it, I survived, and I would it all over!
3. Breeding Ground
After I completed my decent and got back on level ground, a deep breath was to be had.
After that deep breath I acknowledge an extremely important thing,
I WAS PROUD OF MYSELF!
Even with all the fear, anxiety, and stress (physical and mental) of climbing that Mountain, in the end, I was proud of myself and that is a breeding ground for confidence.
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